To Everything There is a Season

Episode 10

Well, friends, here's another post that was inadvertently inspired by one of the songs in the playlist of my youth. The song, of course, is by The Byrds, but the lyrics are straight from Scripture.

There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,

a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,

a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,

a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,

a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

              Ecc 3:1-8 (NIV)

episode 10 - Strong Women Bright Future

I've read that portion of Scripture for years, but as I was preparing for this podcast, I read it again recently with new eyes.

We're getting ready to sell our house, and in addition to that, our youngest daughter is headed off to college. I've been doing a LOT of life vacillating between a time to keep and a time to throw away. All of our purging and going through closets and drawers involved decisions and changes in what we possess, and how to minimize those possessions.

And in general, when our kids head off to college or career...basically, life on their own, we vacillate between those times of crying and laughter...grieving and dancing... and, ultimately, embracing and turning away.

Hard conversations with a friend or loved one bring about the option between a time to be quiet and a time to speak.

Conflicts with others - whether it's in our business or personal life - make us decide whether we are in a time to tear down (as in an unhealthy relationship) or a time to build up.

There are 28 unique life transitions mentioned in that 8-verse section alone - that's a whole bunch o' change!

I guess you could say that those **times** in our lives are the source of constant **change** in our lives.

How do you handle them?

Do you embrace the good, fun times and work to avoid (or at least hope to avoid) the more unsavory ones?

I know you know that the more challenging times are the times that "build character" (something that I heard growing up that I swore I wouldn't tell my kids, but I did).

But did you know they also do something else?

They are golden opportunities to trust God. To give up striving and forcing the square peg into the round whole, to take a deep breath, be mindful of the moment, and - as my realtor put it - trust the process.

What processes are you going through right now?

  • Is it caring for an elderly parent or disabled family member?
  • Is it struggling in a difficult marriage or a painful divorce?
  • Do you lose sleep over the path that your teen or adult child seems to have strayed from, or is currently on and headed towards a bad end?

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How you can use this information

Steal away from your daily routine, grab a cuppa', take a deep, cleansing breath, and journal some (or all!) of these points. Take your time with them and don't minimize the impact they're having on you!

  • What is my typical reaction to change? Do I have different responses to "good" and "bad" changes?
  • How do I define or distinguish between the two?
  • What changes have I recently gone through or are currently going on in my life?
  • In each situation, how can I best "trust the process" so that I can emerge stronger and better on the other side?

I'm sure as you get started writing you'll come up with other thoughts, too. Remember: this isn't a contest and there are no right or wrong answers!

Use the answers to get to know yourself better - they'll empower you to not only embrace change but be able to use the transitions to your growth and advantage.

With you on the journey, friend!


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